Time changes things, as does life events.
I can not tell you how many times I have had the conversation with my Mom or husband about how much things have changed and I didn’t even realize it. From friends, to life milestones, and even relationships with family members!! You don’t necessarily mean to put time and distance between those you love it just sort of happens and often before you realize it weeks or months have gone by.
My Mom once told me that sometimes people find themselves in different seasons in life and occasionally with some time you might find yourselves sharing a season again. Just like the leaves change with the season so do friendships and it’s a completely taboo thing that no one seems to discuss. I get it, sometimes you’re thinking to yourself “What the heck is wrong with me that I don’t hear from so and so anymore or why didn’t I get invited to do {fill in the blank} I am guilty of being down on myself thinking I said or did something wrong but the truth is, its totally okay to not be in the exact same place as your bestie from high school or maybe the person you were in college isn’t the same as you are as a spouse or parent and so you have less in common with your old friend right now. That’s normal and doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. People grow and develop their ENTIRE lives so how one person grows may not be how the next person grows and develops.
Maybe you are at that point in your life where you are married and building a family but your BFF is single and just not on the same lifetime movie moment you are. Maybe you are the type to stay in (Not judging, this is totally me!) and the people you were once super close with still go out every weekend. There is nothing wrong with being either way- some people are just at a different time in their life and maybe in 5 years you will find yourself both cheering your kids on running their little legs off around baseball plates sitting side by side on the same bleacher. Or maybe you and your spouse are out to dinner and run into another couple and you just pick up like it hadn’t been two years since you spent time together.
The point is, you never know what will happen, don’t assume you will stay on the exact same path as everyone you spent the last few years with because things change, seasons change, and life changes EVERYTHING. However do not just assume because there’s been time or distance between you and someone else that it’s a lost relationship. It’s absolutely okay to be “different” and have your own thing going on! It’s just how life works.
To my friends in other seasons, I see you, I love you and I will always be around!
{Probably on the couch and binging some girly something or another ignoring the 500,000 toys in my living room} 😉
XO Chey