A few weeks ago I was in the shower and to no surprise my two year old son was patiently standing on the other side of the curtain chatting away to me.
He would tell me colors of things in the bathroom and pop a few bath toys in for me “You need Mommy?” I would hear as another toy was landing at my feet.
Shortly after the third toy made it’s appearance I heard him walk out of the bathroom but quickly heard the pitter patter of little feet excitedly returning just as I was dressing. (They certainly know no privacy!)
“It you Mommy! It you!!!” I looked at what my sweet boy was holding in his hand and couldn’t help but laugh. He had one of those perfume cards from a beauty magazine in his chubby hand proudly exclaiming, “It you Mommy it you! You pretty.”
In that moment it hit me. He doesn’t see the flaws I do, he sees a pretty lady on that card and she reminds him of me because to him I am pretty.
Your children do not see the things the way you do.
They do not see the imperfections we point out to ourselves everyday. They don’t notice the stretch marks or the blemishes we think can be seen from space. They don’t care if our hair is a mess or our clothes more for comfort than style.
They only see love, comfort, and safety.
The body you hate is all they know and they don’t mind the curves, stretch marks, and blemishes we feel make us less than. We, in all our imperfect glory are amazing, prefect, and “pretty” to them. How amazing is their innocence while they are young and haven’t had the wordly views pressed upon them.
How we show them what we see in ourselves is how they will learn to view themselves. Maybe instead of finding fault in ourselves we should focus on the strengths we have instead.
Decide how you want your daughters and sons to view themselves and set an example of self love. You won’t regret it.
Ps I’m not sure who this model is but I hope you don’t mind my son’s comparison 🙂